The Don’t List


The other day, I was sitting at a bar waiting for a friend. There were two people talking and I (of course) dropped some eaves. There were two young women sitting across from me and they were talking about something exciting. I don’t remember what it was but what did catch my ear was what one of them kept saying/shouting:


It was wince city for me every time she said it. Now, don’t get it twisted. I thought they were both beautiful, intelligent women and I think nothing wrong with them. The reason why I winced is because I say that a lot and I didn’t like hearing it from another person. I vowed to never do it again.

Sometimes we are smacked right in the face with how we don’t want to be. Sometimes, we don’t know what we want to be until something shows us what we absolutely do not want to be.

I’m not talking about being critical of people. I’m talking about how when we recognize the negative stuff we can identify our blessings. When we identify our fears, we can see what actually motivates us.

So, what gives you the heebie jeebies? Then, let’s look at the flipside of that. The flipside is where the magic is. It’s what we really want.

What’s your Don’t List?

11 Coco Chanel Quotes to guide you through life in style.

DON’T: Be catty. Don’t act bitchy because I think it’s “cute.” Don’t make snide remarks to be funny. Don’t justify my bad behavior because he/she/they do it to me. Don’t surround myself with other bitchy people who validate my feelings. Don’t romanticize bitchiness.

DON’T: Be irrational. Don’t be selfish. Don’t need to have the last word in a fight. Don’t refuse to take a second to see if I’m the crazy one.

“Don’t be cruel to a heart that’s true.”
-Elvis Presley

DON’T: Stop evolving. Don’t stop moving. Don’t get stuck in a routine. Don’t be afraid of change. Don’t stop believing in yourself. Don’t let small setbacks lead you astray. Don’t get comfortable.

What about you? What’s your Don’t List? Write it down and revel in another list that helps motivate you in being the most beautiful bad ass bitch in the universe.

Olla Swanson


7 thoughts on “The Don’t List

  1. I love that Coco Chanel quote! I agree with everything on your don’t do list. I would say don’t be too hard on yourself (and enjoy that extra piece of cake every now and then 😉 )

    xo, Pri


  2. I try to make sure that I remain positive. I don’t enjoy complainers / petty people in my space too much. That would probably be on my “don’t list”.


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